And I think one of the things that makes me angry as hell
Every time when something goes wrong in a relationship
Is always about what a girl has done (exactly exactly)
It's never about him and what problems he has
I remember every situation the girl had a short skirt at Bree and something happened to her
And it was like what was she wearing?
You know the Karabo Mokoena situation
Ah what did she do for him to do that to her?
Like that's always like the situation with them
But you think it's about the girls or people should look at the source?
Like where is (yah exactly) everything coming from?
Yah 'so nobody ever like even with that it's like
I get that we have super cool organization that helps the girls all the time
Get over staff but I really feel like you know boy child
We need to pay attention to them
What is his issue? What is he gone through?
What is his seen like? (How did he get where he is right now?)
Exactly right 'cause clearly he knows how t lay a hand on a woman
Because this was the life he was accustom to
That's what he thinks is right
Weather he saw it from the people before him
Or you know like you told (his childhood experiences and)
And you get what I'm saying?
And it's just so messed up because I feel like a lot of females lives
Get derailed because of this narrative that we're scared to go on
Even with people who always asking about our love lives right
It's never really about what's you know your music
What are you up to, what are you doing here?
And there there and there
It's like the relationship is the most important thing
And when the relationship fails it's almost like
Ah what did she do for the relationship to fail you know
I mean when my own personal experiences
And I know Like a whole lot of other females
Ahm when you go back to forgive you're still wrong
You know it's almost like what has she done?
Ahm ahm why is she going back to forgive? There's a guilty conscience there
And what not and to be honest
There is a guilty conscience because you feel you didn't do enough to change him
I feel like people should also investigate and talk to the guy like
What made you to do what you did?
People should also talk to guys like what's really happening
'Cause you can't just focus on the girl
Like you need to look deep down at the source
So let me carry on having discussions about Karabo Mokoena
About Khensani about so many people
Ahm and girls will continue to to to I don't know
Like have second like have second thoughts every time they try to leave
Because that's how the society is right
The twitter streets are like that like what is she doing?
Ah she's probably doing something to provoke him
And I just think this is a growing phenomenon
We need to go back to the basis find organizations
That are going to support the boy child
Find how we can also support a girl child
By not victimizing her further
Knowing that she's already had a disadvantage
I mean being a female in entertainment your life is like spread open right
You're always wrong no matter what you do
No matter what you get right
How you look you know the way you behave
Everything out is always before your mind and what you can offer to the society
So I just feel like can we go back to finding out how we can heal the boy child
Yeah yeah 'cause a lot of people are talking about Karabo, Khensani
All the girls but they not talking about Sandile the other guy
We not talking about Sandile the other guy
Sandile Manstwe like right now what led him to being the Monster
I don't believ e anyone was born as a Monster
I don't believ e anyone was born as a Monster
Can we start investigating those things
Can we start investigating, 'cause I'm gonna be honest
I'm a broken human being
I'm more broken about not having a, you know what I'm saying?
About not having the right father, we was present but he didn't do the right thing
I saw him beat on mom's, I saw him abuse alcohol I saw him do the most
And those things can affect you in life exactly
So I don't even know what a healthy relationship looks like
'Cause I'm out here believing that love is literally, he beats you
And then he (blows) he makes it better
Blows it in your face again
So how do we begin to like unravel all these things
Because physiologically I don't even know what a healthy relationship is
And to top it all of I just feel female is always blamed for what goes wrong
So I don't wanna be coated out of context
Like I'm for the female I'm for the women
I'm for the strong individual who stands behind this
But I'm sitting here thinking we need to fix our men
It's not about fixing ourselves
We need to fix our men
We not the people with the problem, they are
How do we start by doing that